They act as if it is a good character trait. There is nothing wrong with judging. There is something wrong with improperly judging others. Using different standards for different people or different races or genders. Or not judging yourself by the same standards in which you judge others. If we are unable to judge, then how can we praise someone else for doing good or another for doing wrong. Judging others is not wrong. In fact, it is essential to be able to discern between right and wrong that allows us to avoid being with the wrong people. So why do some people here take pride in not judging others? @Captain I agree with your words. People definitely need to learn how to judge. It's a lost art.
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lazybones at 10 May,2013
Modern parlance has given different (negative) meanings to words which are essential to learn how to think. Criticism Discriminate Judgement Prudence- be a prude
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- We all judge people. It's in human nature. By simply saying you prefer a certain body part or or saying people who do a certain thing are like that is judging. People can deny it all they want.
It's not always bad but the word judge has negative connotations to it. - Because...
...we're in the minority.
:) - wow man, good question... a person is always accused of judgmental if he/she believes in Jesus.. i can't say anything about how i oppose abortion, otherwise i'm accused of judgmental.. I'm a sinner, and i don't care if other people don't like my sins! i agree with them!
God bless you - Actually judging others is very wrong unless one is trained in a uniform methodology for assessing certain criteria: most of us are woefully ill-suited to the task, emotional, and driven by biases that would obfuscate fairness, so yes, arbitrary judging is wrong. The bible says in Matthew 7:1 " Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. That pretty much sums up that point. - Maybe you're talking stereotypes or racial profiling, essentially the same thing.
Most people who refer to themselves as nonjudgmental mean they are open-minded, as in willing to hear the whole story behind an individual and/or an individual act.
I really don't know what exactly you're referring to, but the way you make it sound, we are all judgmental, individually and as a society. We all make judgements about individuals and situations based on our own experiences, beliefs, intuitions, and sometimes statistics.
Statistics are a problem in that what people take as issues of race are more issues of socio-economic situations. You grow up in a neighborhood that has certain beliefs about how to deal with their issues, that's not a matter of race so much as it is a matter of the fact that some people grow up in a certain way and it's all they know. People who grew up another way altogether can never know that mindset, but if they try to understand, you might call them nonjudgmental.
As a society, we make agreements about beliefs in common and create laws, written and unwritten, about what's ok and what's not. If someone breaks a law, we judge them. If we believe someone may have broken a law, but didn't see it with our own eyes, it's better to stay open-minded. Some people can't do that if a loved one is harmed and they are convinced by others that a certain person is responsible, and that can lead to very bad judgement if the person is angry and capable of violence.
Ultimately, we all need to use our own judgement to make decisions about our own lives, but being judgmental of others can backfire. A good example is the DNA Project, how it proved innocent previously judged to be guilty of crime.
Judging what you know from what you actually know for yourself, by use of your physical senses, is absolutely necessary. How you act on that knowledge can be wrong according to the courts and society.
But absolutely, if you are a direct witness to someone doing good or evil, you should absolutely judge. But you should consider who you want to be and possible collateral damage when you decide how to act on it. Praise for good actions is awesome. How you deal with bad acts are more delicate.
And absolutely you should use your judgement to decide who you let into your life. It's your life, no one else's.
I just think you're misinterpreting what most people mean by not being judgmental. - this seems to be a problem most properly laid at the feet of the jesus freaks.
normal (rational) people understand that we all judge all the time, and have no real issue with it unless you publicize those judgements. - Modern parlance has given different (negative) meanings to words which are essential to learn how to think.
Criticism
Discriminate
Judgement
Prudence- be a prude