Dudes: How do you deal with friends who bring up bad qualities about yourself when if front of a girl?

Asked by John at 22 May,2013
Like when you're hanging out with some bros and they go out of their way to bring up bad qualities about you or "un-cool" things you've done in the past so that the girl will become less interested in you and more interested in them. How do you "disarm" them?

Best Answer:

Isabelle at 22 May,2013
Flush 'em. They're not real friends, they're frenemies. Alot of ''popular'' people have frenemies and they lie to people to portray a facade of high social status and they have these many, many ''friends'' when they are actually ''frenemies''. They are dishonest. Better to be alone than with inferior company. Those frenemies ''out to get you'' and bring you down are inferior company; small minded, paltry, belittling. Bless them, wish them the best, pray for them; but as far as physical proximity goes, flush 'em. Try to find the good who won't treat you like this. lots of luv xoxo

Other Answers:

1. I'd stop being friends with him. He sounds like a jerk.
   
2. I would beat them up but them up. The girl will be scared if I do that she will think am a creep,so just give awsome comebacks embarass them too. Good luck
   
3. Well, first of all I wouldn't consider them friends anymore. Friends would never do that, and personally? I just think you don't have any 'friends' so you consider these people that don't care about you as 'friends'.
   
   Get some real friends, bro. They seem like @$sholes anyways.
   
4. i would talk to them in private and let them know you don't like it when they talk about certain things or bring up stuff from the past. usually they don't mean harm when they talk, they just trying to be funny. but if they continue to do it then there is bad intentions and you need to stop hanging with them when you're with your girl. try double dating with another couple that show you mutual respect.
   
5. They are competing so be a competitor! If you choose not to stoop to their level, a mature female would notice this and give you props for it. Chances are though that you are dealing with a "girl" and not a "woman" so your only option is to engage in the competition. Either that or abort...leave the situation with the girl. To be honest, the girl probably doesn't notice the bad remarks...she thinks you are all just messing around. She's probably not old enough to subconsciously recognize what the negative remarks are truly intended to do (which is to compete for her attention).
   
6. Flush 'em. They're not real friends, they're frenemies. Alot of ''popular'' people have frenemies and they lie to people to portray a facade of high social status and they have these many, many ''friends'' when they are actually ''frenemies''. They are dishonest.
   
   Better to be alone than with inferior company. Those frenemies ''out to get you'' and bring you down are inferior company; small minded, paltry, belittling.
   
   Bless them, wish them the best, pray for them; but as far as physical proximity goes, flush 'em.
   
   Try to find the good who won't treat you like this.
   
   lots of luv
   
   xoxo