When boys sit with their legs wide open, nobody says anything, but when girls go it, they are told to close their legs. I was sitting in the library the other day laying on the couch reading a book and my legs were open a little it and some man was like, "For the love of god girl, close you legs!" When my brothers sit with their legs open, my dad doesn't care, but when I do, my dad is like, "Close your damn legs!!!! I don't want men to be looking for sex with you. CLOSE YOUR DAMN LEGS!!"
Best Answer:
Kira Savage at 17 May,2013
I hate to be one to tell you this, I've been there before! Don't take it so harsh though they're just protecting you from getting hurt! I don't know exactly how old you are but take it from a 21 year old married mom who's been raped 2ce... I know its more comfortable to sit or lay like that and any woman will agree! But I must say if it were my kids, I wouldn't be any different! You must understand as a young woman that there are stupid people out there, though you may not think your giving a man a signal, you could be! And even if you think your strong enough to protect yourself, you may not be... you see, you have to be strong enough to protect yourself in the first place by not giving off the signals, so, sad as it sounds I agree with the adults, its lady like to keep them closed, and if you do, things like that wouldn't come up!
Other Answers:
- What is this, 1956? Women sit as they please.
- paranoia
just like in Japan. if you are male, stay away from females on a bus or train you will get sued. it doesn't matter if you have to sit next to a smelly old man, it's better than to get sued for 'groping' a girl - Same reason they tell guys to keep it in their pants.
- Usually its because women used to mainly wear skirts, and if you sit like a guy we'd be able to see right up it.
- Depends upon if you are wearing a skirt or not!
- Ladies sit like ladies legs closed always until marriage
- Because they have vaginas and bush hair
- It is just how "old" culture mixing in with the "now" culture. It is lady-like to sit with your legs closed. It is how they were raised. There is a large gap between mannerisms of now and then. Also, dads will always be protective of their daughters.
- damn how old are you. if you are older than 20, im going to be confused how you went that long with out this training. Missionary you open you legs, so if you are sprawled out with your legs open all the time, its going to look like you want something. Sorry its a double standard but until men open their legs to take sex, its just the way it is. Same way you don't bend over the desk infront people all the time when they are talking to you. Its just bad to do.
All those people saying "its old school, or in the past" no its not. You shouldn't be sitting with your legs wide open looking at people. Nor bent over with people behind you. you wouldn't bend over with somebody behind you in a line to pick a pencil up? would you. - Hmm...I've never heard this one before. Where the heck do you live? Must be extremely old fashioned.
I'm sorry that your family is weird about it. They shouldn't be telling you anything about the way you're sitting. What a creepy sexual thing to even think about a family member or stranger sitting a certain way. It's their problem, not yours. - To prevent mice from making a nest in a dark, warm space.
- I hate to be one to tell you this, I've been there before! Don't take it so harsh though they're just protecting you from getting hurt! I don't know exactly how old you are but take it from a 21 year old married mom who's been raped 2ce... I know its more comfortable to sit or lay like that and any woman will agree! But I must say if it were my kids, I wouldn't be any different! You must understand as a young woman that there are stupid people out there, though you may not think your giving a man a signal, you could be! And even if you think your strong enough to protect yourself, you may not be... you see, you have to be strong enough to protect yourself in the first place by not giving off the signals, so, sad as it sounds I agree with the adults, its lady like to keep them closed, and if you do, things like that wouldn't come up!
- This thing called modesty. I call BS on what you claim your dad said to you...