Best Answer:
Clue at 12 May,2013
I really would like to know that too!!! I have been told by almost everybody I know, men and women, family, relatives, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers that I am very beautiful. I have been hearing that comment since I was a child. Nonetheless, all my life, the men who hit on me were really unattractive. The kind of men who get rejected again and again by most women. So that got me thinking. Naturally, a beautiful woman should attract handsome men. That's what people say all the time. However, this was not happening in my life! It was more like "Opposites attract". So either ALL the people I knew and met were blind and could not see that I was ugly and not beautiful and they kept telling me lies OR The handsome men were not brave enough to hit on me b/c I was even too beautiful for them, and they didn't want to get rejected and lose face, especially if they had a reputation that they were heart breakers. They were intimidated by me. It is true that I find almost 95% of the men I see unattractive! The ugly men, on the other hand, had nothing to lose by approaching a beautiful woman like me, if I am indeed beautiful and the people telling me that are not blind, and they were already used to being rejected. So they dared. I think what John wrote is correct. The less attractive guys don't expect women to hit on them. They go for it!!! The more attractive ones have higher expectations and want women to approach them since they think they are "god's gift". Of course that is not true for all ugly guys. Some are very shy and insecure. The same goes for handsome ones. I am sure some hot men are not so stuck up and they initiate contact with women. I know I do that all the time when I see a man I like. I am not some arrogant girl who waits for the man to flirt with her. I always make the first move when I see a handsome guy even though I am beautiful (according to over 100 people). I am not entitled. OR ,third possibility, I was cursed to be forever alone by some jealous woman or a man I had once rejected! These are the three possibilities I came up with. Perhaps you can apply them to your problem too. I am sure there may be other explanations. Keep looking!
Other Answers:
- it doesnt really matter what the men look like it depends how good the women looks men can hit on any looking girl
- I think that it is really up to you to decide if she is attractive or not, however this could go either way with the information you have given. Lots of attractive girls are hit on by guys that are below her level. It's just guys with unobtainable dreams that decided to be confident. It could also be that she is really unattractive and the guys that hit on her are perfectly on her level. I don't think one thing means that the other is true.
- Possibly. Maybe the men that consider themselves "more attractive" are waiting for a woman to hit on them instead of them hitting on women, so only the "less attractive" men are out there hitting on women because they know women won't be hitting on them.
- No, not necessarily
- I really would like to know that too!!!
I have been told by almost everybody I know, men and women, family, relatives, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers that I am very beautiful. I have been hearing that comment since I was a child.
Nonetheless, all my life, the men who hit on me were really unattractive. The kind of men who get rejected again and again by most women.
So that got me thinking. Naturally, a beautiful woman should attract handsome men. That's what people say all the time. However, this was not happening in my life! It was more like "Opposites attract".
So either ALL the people I knew and met were blind and could not see that I was ugly and not beautiful and they kept telling me lies OR
The handsome men were not brave enough to hit on me b/c I was even too beautiful for them, and they didn't want to get rejected and lose face, especially if they had a reputation that they were heart breakers. They were intimidated by me. It is true that I find almost 95% of the men I see unattractive!
The ugly men, on the other hand, had nothing to lose by approaching a beautiful woman like me, if I am indeed beautiful and the people telling me that are not blind, and they were already used to being rejected. So they dared. I think what John wrote is correct. The less attractive guys don't expect women to hit on them. They go for it!!! The more attractive ones have higher expectations and want women to approach them since they think they are "god's gift".
Of course that is not true for all ugly guys. Some are very shy and insecure. The same goes for handsome ones. I am sure some hot men are not so stuck up and they initiate contact with women. I know I do that all the time when I see a man I like. I am not some arrogant girl who waits for the man to flirt with her. I always make the first move when I see a handsome guy even though I am beautiful (according to over 100 people). I am not entitled.
OR ,third possibility,
I was cursed to be forever alone by some jealous woman or a man I had once rejected!
These are the three possibilities I came up with. Perhaps you can apply them to your problem too.
I am sure there may be other explanations. Keep looking! - That usually means she has a more attractive personality. The "hot" guys (me excepted, I had the odd situation of looking like a football player; 6'4", short hair, decent muscles, all that, and usually hanging out with the sports guys, despite being the worst nerd, during most of high school, and even to some degree still today) will usually not worry about pursuing girls, as they get everyone to them. Less attractive guys know that their chances are smaller of getting someone to them, so instead they go for someone who they really like, presumably out of the idea that there is a higher chance that person will like them too.
You must also remember that 60% of men are too shy to make the first move, and most of them are the "good guys" that are interested in a genuine relationship beyond sex.