How do I stop people from taking advantage of me? PLEASE ANSWER!?

Asked by Christinaa =] at 14 May,2013
I am very shy person and Im never tough! I try to be and its very hard! For example a girl in my class always says to me: "can i see your phone" I say yes and then she messages random people and does crazy surf makes me late to class every day! She pulls me away from my class so i can be late Then in gym class she says "can you get me a tissue"? Then I give her one and she ends up taking my cell phone and hides it! Is worse thongs going to happen if I let her keep taking advantage of me? How do I toughen up without making her mad? *stuff sorry typo

Best Answer:

Sahara at 14 May,2013
It's YOUR phone, YOU deserve privacy and she shouldn't be going through your messages, and this is YOUR choice, not hers. If she is doing this then she is obviously not a very good friend, if she's a friend. You have to take control or she will keep doing this. Next time she asks, politely tell her 'no'. Just that one word. If she asks why, explain that she is doing things that you would not like for her to, she is making you late for class, and that this is your phone, not hers. If she tries to argue, just walk away. This isn't funny and it could get you in serious trouble.

Other Answers:

1. Grow a pair! Dude it sounds like she likes you
   
2. What the hell do you care if she gets mad? She's a loser and she needs to suffer some consequences for what she's been doing..
   
3. It's YOUR phone, YOU deserve privacy and she shouldn't be going through your messages, and this is YOUR choice, not hers. If she is doing this then she is obviously not a very good friend, if she's a friend. You have to take control or she will keep doing this.
   
   Next time she asks, politely tell her 'no'. Just that one word. If she asks why, explain that she is doing things that you would not like for her to, she is making you late for class, and that this is your phone, not hers. If she tries to argue, just walk away. This isn't funny and it could get you in serious trouble.
   
4. Perhaps you feel you need to buy other people's affection, that is why you don't dare to say no? My ex-boyfriend is exactly like you, a little spineless weakling and he feels he must buy sk*nk's affection.
   
5. Beat the crap out of her! jk jk just say "Nah, I'm good."
   
6. For starters, the next time she asks you for something, just say NO! Don't worry about making her mad...just say no to everything she asks of you! maybe she'll get the hint and move on! And keep your cell phone securely in a purse, backpack or pocket!