and how should I go about only finding straight women appealing? to clarify, me being attracted to women who turn out to be lesbians or lesbian-leaning bisexuals has nothing to do with wanting to 'get in on the action' at all, in fact that stuff makes me feel pretty uncomfortable in a jealous/lonely way. Yeah averagejoe, the trick is finding that in women who are straight Well I probably don't love myself all the much compared to most people, I'm not sure. But I'm not homosexual, otherwise I'd stop trying with women altogether, and I'm definitely not a feminist. all that much* Sarah wise, I really hope you read this: This idea that men enjoy 'the hunt' is bs, it assumes a predatory instinct, which couldn't be further from the truth, at least for me, and many other men. It assumes that men enjoy pursuing women that don't want them. The last girl I fell in love with who turned out to be bi, I tried to avoid as much as physically possible. Yeah I never said I didn't want her, I did, and still do to an extent. But I don't understand why you think wanting somebody is predatory.
Best Answer:
Sarah Wise - Leo the Lioness at 10 May,2013
Homosexual women won't be trying to get your attention, so your male hunting instincts to pursue and catch a mouse, so to speak, probably automatically turns on. I mean to say, surely part of the fun in being men searching for a mate, must be going in for the kill for something that is focused on getting cheese rather than getting you, so to speak. Maybe you need to be in the environments where all the straight girls go because they aren't looking for men, but are out just to have a great time with their friends. Edit: I didn't say men enjoyed the hunt. I suggested that 'surely part of the fun in being men in searching for a mate is going in for the kill. And if you tried to avoid a bi-sexual as much as physically possible, then I don't see why you did that because it would naturally make your instincts want her more. It is inherent in our nature, whether you want to believe it or not.
Other Answers:
- That sucks dude.
- law of attraction.
Google that. This is a problem on a subconscious level. - Maybe women who are homosexual exude a strong sense of confidence and self identity, and you are attracted to that.
- I have refused, since I was a teen, to "fall in love" until after sex.
it is a very useful rule. - There's no way to really know a person's sexual orientation unless they tell you or you witness it.
It takes time to get to know people. Just protect your heart the best you can until you know you have a chance as a straight man, to pursue a romantic relationship.
Sparks are common, and sometimes one-sided. When you like someone enough to be their friend, be willing to just be friends, at least for a few weeks. Asking a friend if they're gay is awkward, but you can get a better sense by hanging with their friends, or seeing them frequently in social settings. Don't spend too much time alone with someone until you're sure you know and like them enough to risk total humiliation, and you trust them enough that they'll find it flattering and not hold it against you.
The only way for you to get a good idea is to see their interactions with others, especially other girls, as much as possible before you try to make a move. Even then, keep in mind you only know them so much. Someone you feel romantic toward can be a serial killer for all you know.
Focus on friendships. A good friendship is always rewarding. Even if it turns out there's a one way crush, and even if one person can't handle just being friends, it's still a beneficial experience enriching to both lives. - Lesbians tend to behave as men...so either you love yourself too much, or you are homosexual, or you want women to be a copy of men's sexual behaviour.
U sound like a typical feminist, wanting men to behave as women, sexually speaking. - Homosexual women won't be trying to get your attention, so your male hunting instincts to pursue and catch a mouse, so to speak, probably automatically turns on. I mean to say, surely part of the fun in being men searching for a mate, must be going in for the kill for something that is focused on getting cheese rather than getting you, so to speak. Maybe you need to be in the environments where all the straight girls go because they aren't looking for men, but are out just to have a great time with their friends.
Edit: I didn't say men enjoyed the hunt. I suggested that 'surely part of the fun in being men in searching for a mate is going in for the kill. And if you tried to avoid a bi-sexual as much as physically possible, then I don't see why you did that because it would naturally make your instincts want her more. It is inherent in our nature, whether you want to believe it or not.