Hello im 14 years old and ive been a victim of bullying, pysical and mentel abuse by my parents and siblings and ive been a victum of abuse by my school. My parents always fight there getting a divorce but not until we can sell our broken outdated home forn325, 000. My parents fight every day vicously weather it be loud vilent yelling or phyical figjting. My dad verbaly and phyicly abused me for 4 years from when I was 9 to 13. Now hes better but instill hate him. I have freinds but they dont make me feel better. My mom used all of our monwy had a drug addict move into our home and have an affair with him and she abused my brother qnd sister who ahte me becouse my mom made them watch me when they were younger so she could get drunk and party. I was bullied last year because my school put me in a situation wheren they removed me from my freinds so they could usenme as guinie pig to see ifnwenwould do better they did this to multiple people. We ahve a gun in the other room and I hqve a bullet im contemplating suicide becaue im never happy and my past seems to keep gaunting me . I just want a reason to live before I do it im planning tomdomit on sunday night.
Best Answer:
Kendra at 07 May,2013
Im not sure what start over really means to you. . You can take pictures, if you have bruises from your father. If you choose to tell you need to go to her guidance counselor, (you can take a friend) and show her the bruises and pictures and demand help. I did this with my best friend and she was very afraid and she talked to the counselor through little pictures she drew and she took me with her because I knew everything and was an eye witness. She is now in a childrens home (because she got in a lot of trouble) but when she is out she lives with her grandmother and her life is MUCH better off this way. If you end up in the home (no body can take you in or it is a confusing case) Its no big deal, you get visits every week, go to normal school, get healthcare, all that jazz. You will get a case worker and she will help you through a lot. it is illegal for a counselor not to help you. I do not believe you should commit suicide because 1. you are 14. Do you understand how many 14 year olds feel suicidal? Hell I wanted to die at 8 years old until I was around 12. Its a very embarassing fact about me. I know many girls who have commited suicide and do they get attention after they die? No. A lot of parents dont want their kids on the news for suicide because people get a lot of shit for it. Will it help you? No. It will make your entire families life terrible and worse and it will make your friends depressed for the rest of their lives and it wont even help you because if you die you die and thats it. It has only been 14 years, You have got around 70 to even a 100 more years, your parents have much less than that. I will admit your life is not very perfect from what I infer but it is still not a good enough reason to want to die. You will need to be chained up, raped, starved, your limbs cut off, havent seen daylight or another human in 60 years for me to believe for a slight second you should maybe have a reason to kill yourself. Life gets better and you are too young to even think you know what life will be for you. One day you could be famous, a mother, a wife, a teacher, a writer, anything you ever want to be but if you kill yourself you will only be a corpse. I say Nay to both and I feel you should tell. If you do not listen to me I do not care because I am not your guardian. I stopped becoming suicidal because I grew up and began getting in touch my spiritual side and was introduced to my fathers side of the family and they changed me.I really hope everyone can become a human being of love and peace because honestly it is the best feeling ever. I want you to tell so you can go to a good family who will love you and care for you as everyone deserves to be loved and cared for until they are ready to love and care for themselves and their own . I wish you a lot of love and hope you can overcome this and step up to whatever is holding you back from telling. Also I believe you should not come to yahoo for question like this because between you and I am very sure you do not expect anyone to say "yes you should kill yourself" because it is very well common sense. You do not need to take all of my words as I am a different person than you and you and I have different mind sets and beliefs but just take my word that I know what I am talking about. Another experience Ive had in the beginning of this year. A not that close friend of mine tried to jump off the roof my school. I felt very sorry because he had told me before he wanted to die and I laughed at him and called him pathetic and immature. When he did this, he was sent to a mental hospital and was kicked out of my school. He is now out and in another school in a different city, a friend of mine saw him and he was doing so much better after the hospital, he was now a completely different happy person, he found peace and love within him and was happy. What am I trying to go about in this story? When he stood on the ledge of that roof, teachers, and students were making jokes, taking pictures, telling him to jump, taking videos. People were posting facebook statuses saying things like "jump f*gg*t" and making fun of his tight jeans and him being a shy person, saying it was because his girlfriend broke up with him. It made me sick because if he jumped off the roof people would still be saying that. Nobody really feels bad for suicide victims because it is their own murder and their own ignorance. My uncle shot himself, what happened? His daughter has been in and out of mental hospitals for 30 years and his son is a recovering heroine addict (yay he is recovering though). My brothers ex girlfriends brother hung himself what happened? The whole family will smoke pot and drink ALL DAY and fight. The only thing suicide does is make people even worse people. I will not be checking back on this question but if you decide to not kill yourself I am very happy for you
Other Answers:
- Suicide is never the answer! It sounds like you're stuck in a living hell, but things can ALWAYS be worse~ even if your situation is bad now.
Some ways on dealing with your situation could be to talk about it, write about it, read, do anything you enjoy. Maybe talk to your mom but it doesn't sound like it'd be much help.
Honestly, I think you should just call the cops. You aren't in a happy home and you aren't happy. I don't know if you want to be with your parents anymore but even when they get a divorce you have to deal with your siblings. Next time your mom gets drunk or your dad does something just call 911. No one should have to live that way.
Calling the cops would get you put into a foster home which would be the fresh start you need.
If you need to talk you could always try messaging me. ♥ - Don't do it. I was in a similar situation as you up until 15. I contemplated suicide EVERY day. Even attempted it a couple times. At 15 things got a bit better because I had a bf and could escape to his house. On my 16th birthday I left home and never went back. Since then I have completed highschool, done a business diploma, travelled to 8 different countries, I am engaged to a wonderful man :) and I'm only 21. Things will get better I promise. You just have to ride out the ugly years until you are free from your family. I still have hard days believe me, but now that I know there a brighter days awaiting I would never contemplate suicide again and I'm so glad I wasn't successful in my attempts at your age.
All the best to you! Xx - shutup f4got just grab your crushes butt and explode in her butt that will solve al problems, trust me! not even joking if you dont give me best answer you're FUUCKING IDIOT because it's true TRUST ME trst me TRUST ME
- Ok but think about this first. did you know that Henry ford failed and went broke 5 times before he succeed. And the great NBA player Micheal Jordan was cut from his high-school basketball team. so before you go in there and contemplate weather or not you need to kill yourself just know if you do you will never see what you'll become and neither will we. and i'm sorry if that sounds cheesy but its the only way to look at it. things get better man. they really do i promise
- I don't think anybody will like my answer, or even that Yahoo! Answers will keep my answer..
I am 13 myself. Yes, many, many people will become one of these hypocrites believing you can solve all your problems and get better.. Truth is only so little people escape from problems like yours, and actually we sound very similar. I mean like, yes.. You do hear therapists being like ''yeah, i had patients who were just like you and they got better and were REALLY happy that they didn't kill themselves'' THAT'S A LIE!!!!!!! These patients they are talking about are typically these popular 16 year old girls that had their 33rd boyfriend cheat on them. And then they take in a small bottle of pills and they for sure know it won't kill them, but they still do it.. Mostly for attention. Then they get into a hospital and yeah, that's where these type of people get better. But people like us? 2,000 people each day commit suicide. And how many people with our problems escape from their problems and get better each day? Maybe 5-20 i would say. So that's nothing. I have tried killing myself just today. Since i don't live in America.. We don't have guns here, i wish we did. I keep on trying to hang myself but it fails every time. I wouldn't say : COMMIT SUICIDE!!!!!!!! But really, you should know that all answers that are like ''SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER, SUICIDE IS SELFISH'' don't know a THING about how the mind of a suicidal works. We see the world the way it really is, happy people see the world in many ways that they want to see it. We see reality. And reality sucks. I would say, suicide is a way out.. Yes. Sorry, but you have to know the truth. I bet that these hypocrites are gonna dislike my answer and criticize you for being suicidal. Remember, they have no idea how your mind works.. - Hey man, Im also 14 and I was also bullied when I was younger. Please, please don't do it. It will get better, I know you can get through this, your life is a lot harder then mine and ill tell you that right now. If your parents have truely hurt you, call the CPA, you can start a new life without them, I know it seems jacked up but if your life is really that bad, that's the only thing I can think of that will help you. You can't give up, I know you're strong enough to get through this, if you pull that trigger, you let life beat you. You can't let that happen, call the CPA start a new life, you will find people who love you, life gets better, you just have to get through it. We're young and we have a long life ahead of us, you can have a beautiful amazing life too if you try, it will take work but it's worth it. If you search for an answer in life, you'll find it. You just have to try bro. Please, please don't give in to that bullet. I truly care, I'm not just saying that. I respect you for what you have been through, you can make it through this, life gets better, I have a friend who was in the same position and he got through it and he loves life now. Please listen to me, good luck bro.
- Everyone has a reason to live! You certainly have a reason to live. You need to prove to people that no matter your past or background, you can still achieve what you hope to in life (job, new friends, girl friend or experiences for example). Use your past/ current life as a driving force to get you to where you want to be. Every step closer you get to your goal just remind yourself why you are doing it, as though to prove a point to yourself and you will accelerate to your goal.
Set an overall goal and break it down into where you want to be in relation to your overall goal in 6 months or even a months time for example.
Start fresh, look forward to the future and step out of the present. Hope this helps! - Im not sure what start over really means to you. . You can take pictures, if you have bruises from your father. If you choose to tell you need to go to her guidance counselor, (you can take a friend) and show her the bruises and pictures and demand help. I did this with my best friend and she was very afraid and she talked to the counselor through little pictures she drew and she took me with her because I knew everything and was an eye witness. She is now in a childrens home (because she got in a lot of trouble) but when she is out she lives with her grandmother and her life is MUCH better off this way. If you end up in the home (no body can take you in or it is a confusing case) Its no big deal, you get visits every week, go to normal school, get healthcare, all that jazz. You will get a case worker and she will help you through a lot. it is illegal for a counselor not to help you. I do not believe you should commit suicide because 1. you are 14. Do you understand how many 14 year olds feel suicidal? Hell I wanted to die at 8 years old until I was around 12. Its a very embarassing fact about me. I know many girls who have commited suicide and do they get attention after they die? No. A lot of parents dont want their kids on the news for suicide because people get a lot of shit for it. Will it help you? No. It will make your entire families life terrible and worse and it will make your friends depressed for the rest of their lives and it wont even help you because if you die you die and thats it. It has only been 14 years, You have got around 70 to even a 100 more years, your parents have much less than that. I will admit your life is not very perfect from what I infer but it is still not a good enough reason to want to die. You will need to be chained up, raped, starved, your limbs cut off, havent seen daylight or another human in 60 years for me to believe for a slight second you should maybe have a reason to kill yourself. Life gets better and you are too young to even think you know what life will be for you. One day you could be famous, a mother, a wife, a teacher, a writer, anything you ever want to be but if you kill yourself you will only be a corpse. I say Nay to both and I feel you should tell. If you do not listen to me I do not care because I am not your guardian. I stopped becoming suicidal because I grew up and began getting in touch my spiritual side and was introduced to my fathers side of the family and they changed me.I really hope everyone can become a human being of love and peace because honestly it is the best feeling ever. I want you to tell so you can go to a good family who will love you and care for you as everyone deserves to be loved and cared for until they are ready to love and care for themselves and their own . I wish you a lot of love and hope you can overcome this and step up to whatever is holding you back from telling. Also I believe you should not come to yahoo for question like this because between you and I am very sure you do not expect anyone to say "yes you should kill yourself" because it is very well common sense. You do not need to take all of my words as I am a different person than you and you and I have different mind sets and beliefs but just take my word that I know what I am talking about.
Another experience Ive had in the beginning of this year. A not that close friend of mine tried to jump off the roof my school. I felt very sorry because he had told me before he wanted to die and I laughed at him and called him pathetic and immature. When he did this, he was sent to a mental hospital and was kicked out of my school. He is now out and in another school in a different city, a friend of mine saw him and he was doing so much better after the hospital, he was now a completely different happy person, he found peace and love within him and was happy. What am I trying to go about in this story? When he stood on the ledge of that roof, teachers, and students were making jokes, taking pictures, telling him to jump, taking videos. People were posting facebook statuses saying things like "jump f*gg*t" and making fun of his tight jeans and him being a shy person, saying it was because his girlfriend broke up with him. It made me sick because if he jumped off the roof people would still be saying that. Nobody really feels bad for suicide victims because it is their own murder and their own ignorance. My uncle shot himself, what happened? His daughter has been in and out of mental hospitals for 30 years and his son is a recovering heroine addict (yay he is recovering though). My brothers ex girlfriends brother hung himself what happened? The whole family will smoke pot and drink ALL DAY and fight. The only thing suicide does is make people even worse people. I will not be checking back on this question but if you decide to not kill yourself I am very happy for you