Every woman I try to get friendly with seems to dislike me ? I mean over the last few years, I have changed quite from a simple nerdy girl to an attractive girl not to be conceited or anything but after I started to working on myself I have noticed that I attract more men and make women hate me ? Are women jealous of women prettier than them? I don't flirt or hit on any guys either, I am just a nice to everyone yet most women seem harsh to me. Just last week, I watched this italian movie called malena, and somehow it hit me that the reason women kind of stare me up and down is because of this? Oh and I do not dress up trashy either. Thats just depressing and such an ugly thing to do. I feel hurt sometimes when I think about it. How can I make these women like me? To "Moto" I DO not act like that. I am not saying I am hot either but since last year I have actually transformed a lot and I get people to compliment me. Also, I notice these women are not really attractive either. ALSO, I AM SAYING THIS FROM EXPERIENCE ? Few years ago, I was still a young woman and I didn't wear any makeup, wore baggy clothes, and yet women were nice to me. Please don't attack me like that saying I have a shitty personality because It's not my personality because I know I am nice to everyone. I help out people, I have been told I am "too nice", easygoing, funny and yes there are few gorgeous women too and THEY'RE ALL NICE TO ME. Also, yes these mostly insecure women I can tell they're so insecure because they have half their bras showing and their cleavage to their necks and take pathetic pictures, also wear like 10 lbs of makeup. One of my coworker is also a sweet girl, she is gorgeous and I think these majority of women are jealous and that is just depressing. To hellomynameis, CAN YOU PLEASE STIOP ATTACKING ME LIKE THIS? I never said they're "b*tches" or asked you to feel sorry for me or anything. I just asked an anonymous question on here to get some ideas and how I can deal with them. I know I am a nice person and I don't need your judgement on me labelling me as an "awful personality" just because I HAVE COMMON SENSE to recognize that maybe some women don't like me because maybe they're less attractive than me? Or that the guys they like asks me out instead of them. That is common sense to recognize to why they may dislike me. I don't talk about these women to anyone ever, I always interact with them like everyone else, and since I am an introvert, I always keep things to myself. Oh yeah and you're pretty average looking in your pix too lol. Now that I said that I guess I will be backfired with things like "I am full of myself" blah blah. I think there are much prettier women than me as well, and honestly I am not jealous of them because jealousy is really ugly. I don't think I am full of myself just because I said that I am an attractive girl and that people tell me I am. To hellomynameis, LOL when did I EVER claim that "I am the hottest thing in the world" ? I just said that I am attractive and you obviously took that as a threat by making up this false claim. I never said nobody forced me to ask this question, I ASKED AN ANONYMOUS QUESTION just like every other person in here, and that is my choice. And you're the one who made this a huge deal, because clearly, it affected you otherwise you wouldn't have went out of your way to post pictures of yourself. CLUE NEVER CALLED YOU UGLY, so no need to say to "prove to clue that your not ugly"..she claimed that you're an insecure woman, which I guess you are.
Best Answer:
Clue at 07 May,2013
Not all women are like that my friend. I for sure am not. I believe in "hierarchy" and respect it. If a woman is prettier, she is prettier, period! No need to attack her for that. It's not her fault. I have a high self esteem and no insecurities however. Most women are not like me. They are insecure about their looks even some pretty cute girls. I, on the other hand, admire beautiful women and I never get jealous when they look better than me. I actually feel happy to see beautiful women. I am not competitive at all. I am 100% straight too! However, what u r describing is very true. Many women can't stand a beautiful woman among their midst and they will start sabotaging her. This has happened to me many times, since I also happen to be attractive. I don't dress trashy or revealing either. Quite the opposite. When women see men look at and prefer me over them they get extremely jealous and mad and they even try to shun me or start rumors about me. I also have two female friends who are very tall and pretty (one of them participated in a beauty pageant) and all their friends tell them how they should be dressed when they go out. They dictate what they should and should not wear and they never bring their boyfriends with them. They avoid that as they would avoid hell!!! They are afraid my friends' looks will attract their boyfriends. So my friends complain all the time that they have no female friends. That's life. Try to find friends who are not insecure. We exist! P.S. Mo To, Serena, and Hellomynameis would not be among them!!! They belong to the group who is jealous and insecure and that's exactly why they are so mean to you. They already feel threatened by you even just b/c you MENTION that u r beautiful. They perceive that as "attitude" b/c they can't accept it as a fact. Don't pay attention.
Other Answers:
- No all of them are , but yes , the vast majority of women are jealous. I'm sure some can be good friends though.
- If every woman you meet dislikes you then maybe there is one common denominator and that is you. Of course women are jealous of better looking young single women who can command a certain group of men to bed them. Some women will never be able to so these things and it destroys them inside to watch others do this so easily.
If you have a natural beauty it is even harder for the women who struggle to doll themselves up to go out. - They are just incredibly jealous of you. You are very pretty. However, if you are starting to dislike other women, does that mean more of us males have a chance to get you? ;-}
- accept it...if you are really that hot then most women (probably your age) will hate you unless we are gay of course or we are your mother or grandma
cheers
ignore those who are saying it's your attitude. it's not you,you are just confident.people only attack others out of their own insecurities...stay confident - No, and you're not THAT hot. At all.
They don't like you because you openly act like you are hotter than they are. They know it's not true, so they have no desire to hang out with you. Not everyone who dislikes you does so because they are jealous; that could not be more cliché and untrue. Hot women are a dime a dozen, but most hot women have a lot of friends. See the difference here?
Edit: "I notice these women are not really attractive either.". Not to YOU. That's because you think you're the hottest thing walking. I guarantee others find them attractive. - You can always start hanging out with women who are prettier than you, then they won't be jealous.
- It is your attitude. If it was just a handful of women, I'd understand. But if every woman you know dislikes you, it is not because of them. Think about it and you might come to see things in a different light. =^-^=
- I'm not jealous of you
Feel better now? Good - I am sure it has nothing to do with your looks.
- i agree with the first answer, maybe you are the problem but if you are sure of yourself that you are not the problem then don't care about how they feel, im thin,tall black sexy and pretty, the white women in my community hated me for that ,and felt insecure i was not mean to them so don't worry about them, you know someone said this once, my personality is what am and my attitude depends on you so live your life and continue being pretty
- That's nice.
- It's definitely your personality. You assume they are jealous of your "good looks", but ever think they dislike you because you come off rude and full of yourself? Of course not, because it has to be from how ugly they are, they MUST be jealous of you. Right. Clean up your attitude, maybe then people will start to like you.
Edit: "I know I am nice to everyone. I help out people, I have been told I am 'too nice'..."
Thanks for proving my point. You don't see how stuck up you are, saying "Oh I'm so nice! I'm too sweet to everyone! These b*tches are just jealous of my hotness!!! It makes me sad! Feel sorry for me!"
Claiming how "nice" you are, just shows how not nice you are. It's just like how those "nice guys" complain how they got friend-zoned.
Edit: Clue - would you like to see pictures of me? HERE: http://www.flickr.com/photos/94796048@N03/?savedsettings=8640332329#photo8640332329
I have no reason to be jealous of such an awful personality.
Edit: Honey, you're the one making this such a huge deal. No one is forcing you to ask this "question". I'm just telling you like it is. You say you're "nice", I say you are not. Deal with it.
I really don't care if you say I'm "average". I was proving to Clue that I'm not "jealous" of you, because I know I am not ugly, though I'm not the hottest thing in the world - which you obviously think you are. - Not all women are like that my friend. I for sure am not. I believe in "hierarchy" and respect it. If a woman is prettier, she is prettier, period! No need to attack her for that. It's not her fault. I have a high self esteem and no insecurities however. Most women are not like me. They are insecure about their looks even some pretty cute girls. I, on the other hand, admire beautiful women and I never get jealous when they look better than me. I actually feel happy to see beautiful women. I am not competitive at all. I am 100% straight too!
However, what u r describing is very true. Many women can't stand a beautiful woman among their midst and they will start sabotaging her. This has happened to me many times, since I also happen to be attractive. I don't dress trashy or revealing either. Quite the opposite. When women see men look at and prefer me over them they get extremely jealous and mad and they even try to shun me or start rumors about me.
I also have two female friends who are very tall and pretty (one of them participated in a beauty pageant) and all their friends tell them how they should be dressed when they go out. They dictate what they should and should not wear and they never bring their boyfriends with them. They avoid that as they would avoid hell!!! They are afraid my friends' looks will attract their boyfriends. So my friends complain all the time that they have no female friends.
That's life. Try to find friends who are not insecure. We exist!
P.S. Mo To, Serena, and Hellomynameis would not be among them!!! They belong to the group who is jealous and insecure and that's exactly why they are so mean to you. They already feel threatened by you even just b/c you MENTION that u r beautiful. They perceive that as "attitude" b/c they can't accept it as a fact. Don't pay attention. - What the hell is wrong with all of you?Can you not answer a simple question without insulting someone's apperance...