hi my self esteem is very low and i constantly read women stating that they find most men to be ugly.. some women say that they find 95% of men to be ugly.. I can't help it, but those words really hurt me.. i find all women beautiful.. i don't care if they weight 190 pounds.Fellow men how do you feel when you hear a woman saying that she finds most men ugly? do you react in any of these ways? - you feel hurt - you don't care - you assume that she will find you attractive - other option thanks God bless you
Best Answer:
CyberLaur at 12 May,2013
I question their sincerity sometimes. Since women see physical beauty as their domain, they might make such comments to keep the dividing walls up, same as how guys might say girls suck at sports or that someone throws like a girl. Women don't actually want men to look better or to put a great deal of time and effort into their own appearance, any more than guys want girls to practice throwing. Some of it may even be "anti-sluut defense". For instance, for a girl to say what you did - that she finds all men attractive - could be taken to mean that she has low standards or is open to all types of men. She may prefer to say most men are unattractive to her, thinking it makes her appear elite and discerning. Some women really do find most men revolting. If a woman says that, I immediately lose interest in her, the same way that a woman would react to a man who said he found the female form revolting. Why waste time with those people? Not everyone is like that, some girls actually think guys are super hot, and I'd much rather be with one of them. It's all generalizations anyway. The most attractive men are actually more beautiful than average women, just like the best female athletes are better at sports than most men. Think about it -- who looks better, Mayim Bialik or Ian Somerhalder? Tilda Swinton or Tom Cruise? If you hang around the "Gender and Women's Studies" category, you're probably reading a disproportionate number of "ugly men" comments, due to the preponderance of feminists and lesbians in this section. Their views are valid but aren't necessarily a representative sample.
Other Answers:
- I haven't met most men so I can't say most men are ugly. But I don't believe in ugly people just people who have to work a little bit harder.
EDIT: I don't find men ugly at all. There are so many things to love about them: their hair, voices, the way they walk, their confidence. I could go on and on. Ooh and their cologne -rolls eyes-. I just don't like a lot of the things some men do.
it just breaks my heart to see so many men feel like this - Nope. I couldn't give a stuff.
- yes it hurts but all women in this section as sexist pricks like lilith
- Yet 95% of men get laid and we are accused of going for looks only.
Men are impossible to please. - No, because I know most women aren't beautifull on the inside and this proves it once more.
- Who cares?? Just accept it and move on. It does you no good to dote on the obvious.
You were raised to believe in fairly tales but now you are beginning to see the truth. The sooner you get over it, the sooner you can foment a justifiable response to it. What do you really want with women? Take your time and answer that when you are ready.
Live in the reality, it's much better in the end. It will free you from caring what other people think, including women. Lots of previously wasted time can be spent on other productive things. Don't worry, you'll still get your sex. - no. it just confirms what we already knew. chicks are all lesbians inside.
- You stop including yourself in the 95% group and you star identifying with the 5% group. You think of yourself as belonging to them, not the others (even if you may not in reality). That way you don't fel hurt or upset.
See it in a reversed manner. If you came up and told me that You find 95% of women ugly, I would AGREE with you and laugh happily. I would not feel offended at all b/c
A) Your opinion doesn't change my sense of self worth
B) I don't include myself in the group u r referring to as "ugly"
Having low self esteem can make u feel hurt when u hear words like these but u will never experience devaluation if you look at the whole thing from another perspective, a place of power and CONFIDENCE, not weakness and insecurity. - i
- could not care less.
she was a self admitted lesbian in training.
when they play for the other team, they are some women's problem, not mine.
this year, I have had 3 different women half my age knock on my door.
cyber strangers can not effect my opinions of women.
the 80/20 rules is not without some basis, learn to deal with it. find something else they appreciate besides looks and develop it... quite frankly, of all the reasons they might decide to have sex with you, "looks" is the most shallow, it is SO much better to be "interesting". - Not really, I know I look like the back end of a bus regardless. Chin up though, there will always be someone uglier than you. (probably me).
- Men can be beautiful too, it is not only women. Anyone straight who thinks most of the opposite gender is generally unattractive is a liar.
- I question their sincerity sometimes. Since women see physical beauty as their domain, they might make such comments to keep the dividing walls up, same as how guys might say girls suck at sports or that someone throws like a girl. Women don't actually want men to look better or to put a great deal of time and effort into their own appearance, any more than guys want girls to practice throwing.
Some of it may even be "anti-sluut defense". For instance, for a girl to say what you did - that she finds all men attractive - could be taken to mean that she has low standards or is open to all types of men. She may prefer to say most men are unattractive to her, thinking it makes her appear elite and discerning.
Some women really do find most men revolting. If a woman says that, I immediately lose interest in her, the same way that a woman would react to a man who said he found the female form revolting. Why waste time with those people? Not everyone is like that, some girls actually think guys are super hot, and I'd much rather be with one of them.
It's all generalizations anyway. The most attractive men are actually more beautiful than average women, just like the best female athletes are better at sports than most men. Think about it -- who looks better, Mayim Bialik or Ian Somerhalder? Tilda Swinton or Tom Cruise?
If you hang around the "Gender and Women's Studies" category, you're probably reading a disproportionate number of "ugly men" comments, due to the preponderance of feminists and lesbians in this section. Their views are valid but aren't necessarily a representative sample. - I guess I just assumed that the world ran by Seinfield's rules:
3/4 of the available dateable people are not dateable.
That is: Both genders automatically exclude 3/4 of the people that are the right age, etc, etc. They just wouldn't even consider them.
They don't think "ugly" - they just don't even think about it.
I'm guessing the 3/4 is actually being generous for some (i.e. "95% are not dateable") and stingy for others ("Hey, everybody's dateable ... except HIM") - but that it is automatic. You don't think about. Your brain just weeds out the possibilities without you even thinking about it.
Its not really fair of course because it does that with way too little information and so you miss out on some of the best people.