...and you love your job and you don't want to quit it. Then you meet a guy who you like and you decide to move in together. What would be the ideal salary for that guy to be making? A) $20,000, so he can work part time and take care of the chores and stuff; B) $50,000, exactly the same as you; C) $80,000, so he can seem more like the man in the relationship; D) $500,000, so you can travel the world and buy expensive things.
Best Answer:
Serena at 14 May,2013
A, B, or C would be fine with me. I don't care. D is territory I'm not comfortable with - I'm poor, lol.
Other Answers:
- B or C
With the possibility that either of us may have to do "A" for a while - It doesn't matter. Money has nothing to do with love. If I had to pick one to avoid getting something chopped off in a tyrannical society or somethin then 50k. Start out caring about money and it will always be an issue.
- I don't care, after the burning I got with my ex, I wont be pooling all my finances with a man again. I would expect him to work and share an account with me into which we put equal amounts to cover joint expenses, whatever each of us has apart from that is our own business.
- Against popular belief on this forum, most women would prefer that he's financially stable. He doesn't live beyond his means, doesn't have a huge amount of debt [preferable NO debt]. I know that's rather difficult to believe, but it's the truth.
EDIT @Jess... I've noticed that, too. Many men do not like their women making more money than they do. - A, B, or C would be fine with me. I don't care.
D is territory I'm not comfortable with - I'm poor, lol. - Money doesn't always make you happy! To me it's no big deal at all! If you want a materialistic relationship then awesome.. but money shouldn't even be an issue when it comes to love, in my opinion it's just vein!
- Anyone who judges an individual solely by the level of their income is a shallow materialistic douche. If you make $50,000 a year, you can reasonably support yourself, and you should not expect anyone else to help support you (nor should they expect you to support them).
- I don't really care about the salary of any guy I date. But I'm never going to quit my job, so I'd probably prefer someone who didn't mind doing most of the chores.
- My salary is 50000$ means that we both can have a pretty decent life. So i wouldn't mind if he didn't earn anything at all, if it was just for the economy.
But then i could never respect someone who did nothing with their life, so he should earn something.
Whether i want him to earn more than is completely dependent on how egoistic he is. Ideally, it would be equal. - Anything but less because men often become passive aggressive whiners when the woman makes more money or does anything better actually.
- i dont need to assume ;)
well C would be my current sistuation..
so why not him make more than that but half a mill isn't realistic. but the ideal would we both get paid 20,000 to traval!together! - Don't have such a chip on your shoulder, it's unappealing.
You probably whine and lament that women don't want you because you don't make much money when really the reason is it's because you have a freakin chip on your shoulder.
It's like when a pretty girl says "people are intimidated by me because I'm so hot." No..people stay away from you because you're not likable. Hint: It's your personality!
Anyway, to answer your question, the IDEAL salary of course would be the more the better. Let's face it, money is NOT icky. Money is good. Not that a woman should place money FIRST...but you asked for the "ideal." All other things being equal, $500,000 seems better than $20,000...doesn't it? No denying it.
If you're asking for the realistic salary, a woman should probably aim for $50-80... I live in California where everything is ridiculously expensive.... so I'd say a woman who makes 50 should aim for $80,000...not so he can "seem more like the man," but for practical reasons. A combined income of of $100,000 doesn't get you much I'm afraid...
It seem to me that you earn a very low wage and are aiming for a woman who makes more than twice as much as you.... so why would you , then condemn a woman who is doing the same thing? - A or B would be fine! Realistically I'm going to be making less than A and will still have to find ways to get by so it's not really a deal breaker.