Friday, May 3

Guys, opinions on abstinence?

Asked by Ashley at 03 May,2013
What is your opinion on girls saying they want to wait until they're married to have sex? I have heard such a diverse set of opinions on this, so I'm curious as to what yours is. I have heard many guys say, "Would not put up with that" and then they turn out to be the same guys who fall in love and say, "Will do it for you" and they end up doing it. I'm well aware though that there are many guys who stick to the, would not put up with that, attitude. What do you think about it?

Best Answer:
John Public at 03 May,2013
In theory I think it is a good idea to wait until marriage. Sex releases some very strong emotions, When women have sex they tend to get very attached to a guy, pretty much for life. But on the other hand, in reality it seems like a heck of a gamble to marry someone only to find that you are sexually incompatible. People used to get married much younger and people didn't used to live so long, so it wasn't as much of a problem. But these days people mature quicker and live longer so it seems like it is more important to know you will be compatible.

Other Answers:
  1. Personally and truthfully, if I my girlfriend didn't want to have sex before marriage I'd break up with her.
  2. In theory I think it is a good idea to wait until marriage. Sex releases some very strong emotions,
    When women have sex they tend to get very attached to a guy, pretty much for life.
    But on the other hand, in reality it seems like a heck of a gamble to marry someone only to find that you are sexually incompatible.
    People used to get married much younger and people didn't used to live so long, so it wasn't as much of a problem. But these days people mature quicker and live longer so it seems like it is more important to know you will be compatible.
  3. Sweetheart, when the right guy comes along, you'll put out regardless of whether your married or not. Studies have shown that abstinence pledges do not work at all.
  4. I try on a pair of shoes before I buy them ... I think she does too.
    Who wants to find out on their honeymoon the sexual part of the relationship lacks compatibility?
    If the couple is marrying to fulfill a duty to church as reproductive elements ... it's no big deal if they are not sexually compatible. They are encouraged to do the act whether they want to or not.
  5. I abstain from sex b/c I can't find the right one to sleep with not b/c I am waiting for a wedding ring. I have been celibate for 7 years. I am not religious at all and I won't marry even if the love of my life ever comes along. I am just able to control my urges and basically "freeze" them so that I don't even have the desire to masturbate anymore.

    But if I ever found the right one, I would not wait for marriage. I think that's stupid.
  6. I'd say a lot of them are hypocrites, and they usually use that as an excuse to guys they don't like to fend them off. As you will see many of these girls hanging around very large quantities of men at a time. C'mon, at least one of them has to be on touching terms.
  7. i see no point. you get the same end feeling, regardless of waiting or not. it is not wine, it will definitely not feel better the longer you wait. your just wasting your time in my opinion.
  8. I think sex is a very important part of a relationship. If you're not sexually compatible then it's unlikely to work out as a romantic relationship. So I'm unlikely to wait until I'm married.
    I also have very little self control and I wouldn't want to marry someone just because I wanted to have sex with them.
    However if someone does want to wait until they're married I think that's absolutely fine unless they're trying to push their views onto me. Whatever floats your goat!
  9. fine by me you can do whatever you want if someone doesnt like it tell them to go suck a fat one