It seems like many guys on here think so. There are many guys who I like but don't meet the standards for. I don't demonize them for liking what they like.
Best Answer:
Marty Mcfarty at 30 April,2013
I like the question. 1) From the point of view of the rejected Personally I'm really ugly. So continually I've liked women but they've had standards and have rejected me. That happened a lot over and over again. And it was just the most heartbreaking thing. Sometimes I ask myself: "do women have a right to reject me *all the time*? all they need to do is spend a small amount of time with me and I'd be much happier + it wouldn't even hurt them that much." These guys who are demonizing you, I think are pretty much coming from the same place *to some extent*. They need to have sex, their brains are wired for it, they can't be happy without it so they sometimes get angry and retaliate when they are denied it. And in a percentage of cases that anger can become a really awful thing e.g. they may turn into a serial killer. 2) From your point of view of the rejecter Rarely, an (ugly) woman will like me. I have standards and so I am always like "sorry but I just find you nauseating - I am not going to be able to get an erection so..." And I find it the hardest thing in the world to tell them the facts of it (even though she knows already because everyone rejects her.) So *then* I ask myself: You said previously: "all they need to do is spend a small amount of time with me and I'd be much happier + it wouldn't even hurt them that much." so if you are consistent, you should agree to be her bf so all of a sudden I'd be like "NO WAY that would be a really bad idea" (like complete double standards) (and this whole scenario is really true for disabled people. A lot of them would probably love for me to be their bf because *everyone* rejects them their whole life.) But I think personally I am wired chemically to want attractive women and I *strongly* cannot want ugly women or disabled women. It's honestly not that I am a bastard. I just don't have a choice. It's my biology. I cannot make my heart like people it won't. So then I realised that all these hot women who have been rejecting me and breaking my heart, they were in exactly the same position they HAVE to find the best boyfriend they can get. That is deeply engrained in their heart. Programmed by evolution, an undeniable basic instinct. They simply can't sleep with a disabled guy (or really ugly guy like me). Not unless they are like Mother Theresa or something. So I would be a *hypocrite* to demonise them or hate them for rejecting me because I am just like them - I refuse to sleep with disabled people. Similarly those guys are hypocrites to demonise you. Do you have a right to reject a guy? Yes you have a basic human to happiness. Does a guy have a right to get the girl he likes? Yes he has a basic human right to happiness. If we are *neutral*, we should ask what is the greater good - what is the situation that would bring the most happiness *overall*? The greater good is that we all go and sleep with the disabled and look after them because they are the ones who are loneliest and most rejected. But we cannot do that for we are animalistic. Sex is something that all animals do. More advanced concepts like neutrality and the greater good = just not going to happen.
Other Answers:
- You can reject guys. But you should also have the balls to ask out guys and face rejection yourself, instead of sitting back and playing it safe.
- That's a good point. I apologize if I've been doing that, but I don't think I have.
- I have yet to meet anyone to meet mine I guess I am not ghetto or a ho
- Wah I got put in the friendzone by a girl who started dating douchebag I want her to rot in Hell !!!!
- NO!
Haven't you been paying attention to the MRAs?
NO. You cannot reject guys, it's hate crime, and when you get sexually assaulted it's gonna be all your fault! MRA seed has magical rape-prevention powers, and your gynofascism has left you deservingly wide open to attack. So, ya know, I hope you're proud of yourself! - It varies... Women should have been "more selective" if a pregnancy results...
Or, they're "entitled princesses" when we do...
Either damned if we do, or damned if we don't.
EDIT : WOW, BA to Marty Mcfarty! Well said! - of course you should have standards; i don't want a slave. i want a friend and hopefully a lover. and if i'm not good enough she can do as she pleases and i won't stand in her way.
- I have always said that people have the right to reject people they do not want, however I find it so damn irritating when women will say "I want the nice guy", just to reject those men for an asshole, then say "Wow, am I not allowed to reject people?"
You are allowed to reject people, and I assume men this is addressed to have no problem with this, but what they have a problem with is that a lot of women have this whole moral highground thing where they say they want a certain type of person so they seem moral, but reject such people and complain that there aren't many men like the ones they rejected simply because she picked the opposite type.
I also find it annoying when women will reject guys for certain reasons, then say men are terrible people for rejecting physically unfit people.
I also think that women should start risking rejection as well. Nothing's more irritating than a girl that thinks everyone else should make the first move on her, and if they don't, she moves on. I mean, what is that? "I like you, but not enough to face rejection, but if you like me, you should risk rejection". Come on.
Sometimes I feel sorry for guys that feel the need to do such things. - I like the question.
1) From the point of view of the rejected
Personally I'm really ugly. So continually I've liked women but they've had standards and have rejected me. That happened a lot over and over again. And it was just the most heartbreaking thing.
Sometimes I ask myself:
"do women have a right to reject me *all the time*? all they need to do is spend a small amount of time with me and I'd be much happier + it wouldn't even hurt them that much."
These guys who are demonizing you, I think are pretty much coming from the same place *to some extent*. They need to have sex, their brains are wired for it, they can't be happy without it so they sometimes get angry and retaliate when they are denied it.
And in a percentage of cases that anger can become a really awful thing e.g. they may turn into a serial killer.
2) From your point of view of the rejecter
Rarely, an (ugly) woman will like me. I have standards and so I am always like "sorry but I just find you nauseating - I am not going to be able to get an erection so..." And I find it the hardest thing in the world to tell them the facts of it (even though she knows already because everyone rejects her.)
So *then* I ask myself:
You said previously:
"all they need to do is spend a small amount of time with me and I'd be much happier + it wouldn't even hurt them that much."
so if you are consistent, you should agree to be her bf
so all of a sudden I'd be like "NO WAY that would be a really bad idea"
(like complete double standards)
(and this whole scenario is really true for disabled people. A lot of them would probably love for me to be their bf because *everyone* rejects them their whole life.)
But I think personally I am wired chemically to want attractive women and I *strongly* cannot want ugly women or disabled women. It's honestly not that I am a bastard. I just don't have a choice. It's my biology. I cannot make my heart like people it won't.
So then I realised that all these hot women who have been rejecting me and breaking my heart, they were in exactly the same position
they HAVE to find the best boyfriend they can get. That is deeply engrained in their heart. Programmed by evolution, an undeniable basic instinct. They simply can't sleep with a disabled guy (or really ugly guy like me). Not unless they are like Mother Theresa or something.
So I would be a *hypocrite* to demonise them or hate them for rejecting me because I am just like them - I refuse to sleep with disabled people. Similarly those guys are hypocrites to demonise you.
Do you have a right to reject a guy?
Yes you have a basic human to happiness.
Does a guy have a right to get the girl he likes?
Yes he has a basic human right to happiness.
If we are *neutral*, we should ask what is the greater good - what is the situation that would bring the most happiness *overall*?
The greater good is that we all go and sleep with the disabled and look after them because they are the ones who are loneliest and most rejected.
But we cannot do that for we are animalistic. Sex is something that all animals do. More advanced concepts like neutrality and the greater good = just not going to happen.
