I won't say the stuff that I go through, it's too personal but I have no job. I have a mother who is leaving as soon as I'm 18 and doesn't plan on keeping in touch. A father who would rather live at an autoshop than with his son. Siblings who live independently and treat me like an outcast and exclude me and never keep in touch. I have lost all motivation for school and I'm a senior in independent studies. I have no friends. I try to talk to people and they stop eventually. My girlfriend dumped me. No kids. Even when I talk about suicide people end up just ignoring me. I tried the hotline 3 times. I tried the referals they gave. I tried God. Nothing... I feel it is the best decision, I am leaving nobody behind. Nobody will actually hurt for my loss. I have no future, I KNOW where I'm ending up. Why live to se it? At the moment I see suicide as something positive but if someone could spare me the typical "Don't do it, things might turn out dif- blah blah blah" and actually give me something worth thinking twice, I'd appreciate it. I don't want religious talk, hotline numbers, therapy suggestions, mental clinic suggestions, empathy, or sympathy. Just an opinion on why you think I should or shouldn't. Who knows? Maybe I'll listen to you.
Best Answer:
smeagol_jr at 27 April,2013
If you KNOW for certain that you are in a state of suffering that will never end, if you have no resources at all for dealing with all that pain, and you are 100 percent certain of the permanence of your hopelessness, then my opinion is yes, go for it. But it's a permanent and irreversible solution. You don't want therapy, counseling, empathy, sympathy, suggestions, so, what do you want? Permission? I am of the opinion that the lonely people who seem to suffer the most are the ones who are most capable of delivering wisdom to and having empathy for and understanding of others IF they can find the MEANING of their suffering, Pain is a sacred thing. It takes courage and integrity to embrace and explore it. "I have no future". B ulls hit! Your family are losers. Drop them. Find a new girlfriend. Take your experiences and kill yourself "symbolically". Become somebody else.
Other Answers:
- I don't think you should. I have grown up with many suicidal thoughts, and let me tell you... I'm so glad I never did it. I didn't see myself going anywhere and I just felt like life was a dead-end, black hole.
I would lay in bed and stare at the ceiling for days on end, all of my emotion had left me. It was so miserable, I just didn't want to deal with it anymore.
That's when I started thinking, though. I found motivation through myself by reading books. I was the producer of my own destiny, and I took ahold of that. I began working out like crazy and making myself into this fit young woman that had confidence. That confidence gave me the strength to go on, and I finished school. I worked so hard and I landed a pretty awesome job.
Just remember - life is up to you. As hard as it is, don't let others influence you. YOU can control your reactions to life. If you just want to lay down and let it run you over, fine. But you're giving up. Get angry and show others that you don't deserve that kind of treatment! You DESERVE to be somebody! - no! you shouldn't! life is beautiful! even if your parents don't always show it, they love you! your whole family loves you! life might be hard now, but you are strong enough to get through it. being a teenager is stressful, but it is just the beginning of your life and your life will get better. eventually you will meet a girl who really loves and cares about you. I bet you are really lovable and talented so please don't kill yourself! love you!
- I have been in the same situation. Tried suicide a few times and then realised how much it did hurt everyone and how selfish it was. I know you wont believe me but things do get better. You have your whole life in front of you. If you say your going to do it all the time to people they probably think your just after some attention. As for your family im sure they care more than you think, they probably don't realise the extent of your depression. Your life is what you make of it. No one can do it for you. You need to get out there and find a job and that will make you feel better instantly. But the worst thing you can do is kill yourself, its cowardly. Face up to your problems and try and sort them out. I am so strong now after 5 or 6 years of struggling and you will be the same one day it probably wont take as long but just try and think positive about your future and give yourself some goals!!
- please please please dont do it. take a week off school, and during that week watch comedy movies and shows, listen to music that you like, relax, and do whatever you feel like to cheer yourself up. then try to decide whether or not you want to do it. your opinion might change if you're in a better mood. hope this helps at least a bit.
- nah you're young that's a pretty bad idea.
An even worse idea is listening to the random fuck ers on this website .....you need intense therapy and possibly a padded room my man not yahoo answers. - hi jose.
I will say dont do it for this one reason. You dont want to or you would have done it already. Ive attempted suicide. I know how intense the feelings are.
Im glad my attempt failed because my life is now good and yours will be too. I know you dont want to hear that but it really will. Your family do what they do and you cant help that. But you can turn your life around. I promise that one day in a while from now you will look back and feel glad you didnt take your life.
Believe me I know. Come and visit my website http://www.personaldevelopmentforlife.com and use the contact me page and maybe read my about me page. Just so you know Im not lying.
Some of my site content may help you if you are ready. The site is quite new though thats why i say to contact me on my site. Ill be able to help you. If you dont do any of that please visit my Emotional Guidance Scale page.
I promise it will get better. Much better.
lots of love
Kerry - Mate I attempted suicide three times this is why im going to take the time to answer your question. It don't take courage to do it it will take faith in your purpose of doing it. The third time I tried it I was 16 with a handful of tramadol and much to my surprise 40 minutes later it worked as I walked outside I felt strange and just blacked out. As soon as I found myself outside my body I new I done wrong I had to watch myself being loaded on an ambulance. The light soon appeared but I wasn't welcomed with arms wide open. I was shown I would be sent to hell for this unless I go back and change my life.
Im 22 now since then I joined the Army to better my self worth. Im not a Christian but I live my life consciously and always weary of my actions. Im not asking you to believe me I just wouldn't wish that place eternal torment on my worst enemy not even osama bin laden. Death don't end bro the longer you spend on this planet the longer you get in paradise. We do have to come back and be born babies again oneday. We are given 10 years of peace for every year we spend on this planet so if take your life at 18 that's only 180 years of peace. - If you KNOW for certain that you are in a state of suffering that will never end, if you have no resources at all for dealing with all that pain, and you are 100 percent certain of the permanence of your hopelessness, then my opinion is yes, go for it. But it's a permanent and irreversible solution. You don't want therapy, counseling, empathy, sympathy, suggestions, so, what do you want? Permission?
I am of the opinion that the lonely people who seem to suffer the most are the ones who are most capable of delivering wisdom to and having empathy for and understanding of others IF they can find the MEANING of their suffering, Pain is a sacred thing. It takes courage and integrity to embrace and explore it. "I have no future". B ulls hit! Your family are losers. Drop them. Find a new girlfriend. Take your experiences and kill yourself "symbolically". Become somebody else. - I don't think you should because it's not about where you are in life - It's about where you're going. Don't let the people who are in your life right now, define who you will be and are for the rest of your life. Don't think of these people who are hurting you as your future- anyone's behaviour towards you has nothing to do with you personally. Enjoy the little things in life, take satisfaction in those little things, find things which you can enjoy and concentrate on, and pray that you will meet people who will be worth your time and love and who will love you, but be patient and relaxed in the mean time.
Also when you gain some power or when things are looking brighter, that's when usually people become interested in you as a potential friend(that's what I've found), they're less likely to stick around when you have no one but don't let that affect you, carry on with your life. - Jose, thank you for bringing such an important question here.
You don't really know where you are headed, you make where you're headed. Working out is a good start because it makes you feel good. Reading is an awesome way to escape the world for hours at a time. You think that you have nothing to lose, but really by committing suicide you have nothing to gain. You're young and life has a lot of big twists and turns. The way I see it, you have a lot to gain through life now.
So, here are some easy things you can do to have a better life:
#1. Workout. even pushups in your room and stuff like that will help
#2. Do one fun spontaneous thing every day. Cook yourself a cool meal or dessert, dance in your room, climb a tree, whatever sounds fun at the moment.
#3. Volunteer. It feels really cool to help others in bad situations, and they'll love you for it. I guarantee there are a lot of local organizations that need your help.
#4. Smile. Sounds cheesy, but smile when you're walking and when you see people. You'll be surprised how many people smile back.
#5. Graduate. School can add a lot of stress and can make you want to quit everything. Holding that diploma and knowing you're done with high school is an automatic morale booster.
#6. Go to college. After high school, college is often a next step. The best part about college is that it is tons of fun for everyone! Every person finds their own group of friends. Unlike high school, there are no "cool kids" and "lame kids". Everyone ends up being a cool kid in their own group.
#7. Hone a talent. Even if you don't want to make a career out of it, you have something that you're good at. Photography, an instrument, a sport. If there's something you like to do that makes you happy, do it every chance you get, and try to get even better at it.
#8. Collect something. Shells, game cards, shot glasses, bugs, whatever you think looks cool, start collecting it. It's nice to have something that you know is only yours and watching the collection grow.
#9. Record your thoughts. Keeping a journal can be a great way to relieve stress and say everything that you're thinking without anybody judging you. Put whatever you'd like into it: poems, songs, pictures, dreams, thoughts. That journal is YOURS, create your own world in it.
#10. (insert something that makes you smile). I'll let you decide #10. Think of something that you can do whenever you'd like that makes you happy, no matter how brief. What do you like?
I hope this helps. You have a lot going for you, Jose. I promise you won't regret living your life. Just make it YOUR life.
