On one hand, i agree. Totally. But on the other, if said father hasn't gotten over those issues and his hatred towards the mother shows, especially in front of the child, then how is that beneficial? If push comes to shove then the child is going to pick the consistent parent (mother) and end up not liking the father Seriously curios Thanks
Best Answer:
dark eyes at 27 April,2013
For what it's worth? He should see his kids. Kids manage to know which parent is in it for them and which is out for revenge. It may take an unbelievably long time, but do it for your child. They find their own path eventually...
Other Answers:
- In joint arrangements both parents are consistent,however parental alienation is almost solely caused by mothers.Most divorces are initiated by women,who do you think is going to be bitter over having to share their child?
As i said earlier parental conflict deescalates in joint arrangements. - I'd read that as the bull shouldn't get in the way of a boy seeing his dad or either parent for that matter. I noticed in your questions, you by default assume it's the father who should be denied access because of issue between the parents.
Obviously bad feeling between the parents can affect a son, but that doesn't mean a son shouldn't see his dad, and as I stated previously, by denying him access to his dad, all the bull he hears is one-sided. If he's going to hear the bull, shouldn't he at least get to hear both sides of the bull? - For what it's worth? He should see his kids. Kids manage to know which parent is in it for them and which is out for revenge. It may take an unbelievably long time, but do it for your child. They find their own path eventually...
- What makes you think the mother is any better? I have a female coworker that's going through a rather bitter divorce and both her and her children's father, hate each other and vent about each other in front of their kids. What makes you think, only men do this? That's quite the generalization. I know a few women that hate and speak ill of their ex right in front of their kids.
Yea, go ahead, thumbs down the truth. - But on the other hand, why would you assume a father's "hatred" toward the mother was unjustified? Did she cheat on him? Did she lie during custody hearings? Is the father paying child support only to see the money get spent on the mom's new boyfriend while the father only gets to see his son every other weekend?
It seem the father is almost always made out to be the bad guy and he is the reason for the relationship failing.
Sure there are a few bad guys out there. But when you ask questions like this, you have to imagine a man you love and respect getting screwed over by a spiteful woman. Then you can see both sides of the story rather than assuming Mommy is all love & flowers, and Daddy has a temper and neglected the family.
That's what the MRAs are mad about all the time. If everything was always 50/50 responsibility between men & women, then the MRAs would disappear. - All that matters is that the father respects the mother but it doesnt matter if the mother respects the father cus hating men is ok, right feminist?
